Category: Zone BBS Suggestions and Feedback
I've seen people post what are essentially personal ads on the Singles Spit Swap board, and it seems every time somebody does, they are consistently shot down for doing so. I have no problem with this, but apparently there are people who wish to discourage this behavior. No, I'm neither single or looking, but this concerns me. If you are not supposed to advertise that you are looking for a love interest, what is the board really for?
Its just some people like to shoot others down just because they can. Doesn't make it right, ya know
Equally why shouldn't people shoot others down for doing so? After all these boards are primarily about freedom of speech. Personally i find it a little pathetic that people would advertise for a partner in the first place and see no good reason why I shouldn't tell them so. For me this whole website is just about having fun. If others don't find the things I have to say fun then there's always that lovely little ignore link that can be employed.
Incidentally I'm not for one moment suggesting that I spend my entire zone time dedicated to finding users who have posted to the "single spit swap" board and indiscriminately set about shooting them down, however, as with any other board here, if I see something that I don't agree with, or just find plain stupid, as in the case of the girl who was looking for a Marine, then I'll say so.
The simple fact is that these are public boards. Absolutely anybody is free to read them, and every zone user has the right to reply to them. However there's nothing anywhere that says that you have to like the replies.
well Labyrinth, in that vain, I sometimes wonder about the zonebbs suggestions board. When someone suggests something on the suggestions board, they are immediately told they are lazy, and that such and such would create more work for admin. Yet if we question something, some think we are shooting them down when all we were doing is expressing a thought, just as they were. I've even thought of suggesting if there could be an option to ask if there could be an option in the user account to hide boards that don't interest us, but of course since most people want to see every subject in every board, I would instantly be set up on for even suggesting such a thing, so on that basis, you'd have to wonder what any of the boards are for.
wonderwoman
Well, I think, unfortunately for the original posters or those with an idea on something, there is always going to be someone who disagrees. Some people like to speak their minds, reguardless whether it's tacktful or not, which is understandable because we do have more freedom of speech here. Everytime you post or even just say something, you're always going to take the chance of someone reacting differently from what you expected. Sometimes it can be a "duh" for asking a question, being intentionally ignored when you say hello to someone, or a blunt comment being made when you come up with an idea. Noone )including myself) enjoys these kinds of reactions, but if you interact with others, you may get that at least sometimes. I've even gotten reactions I wasn't expecting for posts I've made, and I always think thru what I'm going to say and how I'm going to say it. But you always have to know too, that there will likely be someone who will agree with what you have to say as well, maybe not the same person everytime and not with everything, but if there is a response that you don't like, you could either read and let it go if you know it's just a disagreement or something that is rude but not relevant to the topic, or you could say something if you feel the comment was directed personally at you or what you said. (The "saying something" doesn't always have to mean telling the other person off to put them down or making a rude comment back to them, but it can be to clarify something that wasn't understood or anything else you feel like the other person should know about how you felt. This really goes for anyone, including myself, as I don't like negative reactions myself (which is partly why I'm not very much on going out and speacking to others very much.) So anyways, that's my thoughts and I'll finally end here now. *smiles*
I absolutely agree with dan, he made exactly the right points
So calling somebody pathetic for posting a personal ad in a personal ads board is fun? How is this fun?
well, i think if you read my post a little more closely, and don't just take bits of it out of context you'll see that what i actually said was, i don't just go round indiscriminently calling people pathetic, in spite of the fact that quite often i think they are, but that if i see something that i do find truly stupid, example given above re: girl looking for marine, i'll say so.
in short, if people want to come to the zone looking for love then by all means let them do so. but, A: don't expect me to respect them for it, and B: do expect me to say so if i read something that i consider to be rediculous, because i will.
Well, Harp, I looked at your response earlier today and yours didn't seem so harsh, just questioning. But I guess what I find interesting is that there's a board on this system specifically for people to post personal ads, and each time somebody posts one, somebody tells them basically they shouldn't have done it. Perhaps if posting personal ads is such a horrible thing to most people, that board should not exist?
Hmmm. Maybe it's the way they post though. I mean, I have come across some that weren't so well-worded. *smile* And sometimes, when others say something to the extent of the poster of the topic needing to be careful not to put too much hope in the people on the zone, I quite agree. Also, some of the single zoners on here seem to be really shallow and it's really just people speaking their minds and getting their oppinion out there.
I personally wouldn't consider going out with anyone by just reading their single's topic, but that's just me. hehehehehehe However, I don't think I'd ever post a personal ad. either. lol Am I making any sense? hehehehe
*sexy*
As for the original question, personal ads are just fine on that board. More general relationship stuff has its own board.